By Judy Oldmeadow, Owner & Master Horsewoman, Samaria Creek Morgan Horses
Years ago, searching for strategies to deal with depression, I read about ‘morning questions’: those first thoughts to pop into our head when we wake.
So I composed five morning questions to start my day. What can I:
- Be happy about?
- Be excited about?
- Do to have fun?
Sometimes I struggled to answer these questions. But that struggle was better than the litany of depressive thoughts with which I was always bombarded.
Slowly it became easier, and these five questions are now habit.
Last Sunday I woke overwhelmed with thoughts of too much to do. The day was filled with people:
- Sarita and teenage daughter Bo were in our cottage with Sarita’s sister Quintana (who was visiting from Holland and wanted ‘the whole farm experience’).
- In our loft was vet nurse Elise (owner of Morgan gelding Oscar, who’s on agistment here) and Kristy (apprentice and owner of Morgan gelding Detroit).
- Christi Wales and daughter Dana (visiting their two Morgan yearlings) were looking forward to a day in the herd.
My farm duties included:
Taking our stallion Nimrod to serve a mare at Bonny Doon.
Providing an exciting riding experience for Quintana.
Moving four mares, with foals at foot, from one side of our farm to another.
And so to my five questions:
- I was happy to have so many interesting people enjoying and buying the horses I’d put my heart and soul into nurturing.
- I was excited to have a mare owner seeking another foal by Nimrod – a stallion so well mannered I can take him anywhere, which lets owners of mares with foals at foot rebreed without the stress of transportation.
- I could contribute 100% of my attention to every moment of the day using skills I’d fought hard to learn.
The learn was question easy, as every moment I spend with horses teaches me something new.
But I struggled with fun, as it all looked like hard work.
So, I decided to combine the people with the work.
Bo, Kristy and Elise came to Bonny Doon to see the mare.
Jan, the mare’s owner was away. As I watched her son Dane calmly follow my orders, oblivious to the gaggle of girls, in a situation totally new to him, I had my first learning for the day:
Focus on one task at a time, without distraction. Get it done satisfactorily before looking to the next task. Thank you, Dane!
We had to create a safe place for the mating. It was wonderful to have so many willing hands to move a hen, a water trough, two curious alpacas, a mini mare and a foal.
All went well and we look forward to a foal in eleven months.
Next came the task of moving the mares and foals across our farm.
By including all the people, it was like a movie scene. Bo rode Folie, Kristy rode Poppy, I rode Tanjil (with Dana behind me) and Christy led Arizona while Sarita and Quintana took photos.
The foals loved the adventure and galloped and bucked like spring lambs. Apart from having fun, I felt exceedingly proud of these amazing mares that haven’t been ridden for over a year.
To complete the day, Quintana got to ride a Morgan. Nimrod changed roles from breeding stallion to teaching horse with just a shake of his head and a prance in his step to let us know which job he’d rather have.
By applying my five morning questions to a set of tasks I’d found overwhelming, everybody had fun. Especially me!
Life is 10% what happens and 90% attitude.